ESP through Sex

Black magic is a word heard by almost all people; though very few are aware of the nuances involved. It actually means to please the devil that is the reverse of God. These black arts date to ancient times and many are laced with religion. These are pagan beliefs and are prevalent all over the world.

On such aspect of black magic is practiced in India by the Aghori clan. They are a part of the Hindu faith and are believed to have split off from the Kapilka order around 1000 AD, but the practices and beliefs go back to 4000 BC or the Vedic age.

The Aghori are worshippers of the God Shiva. They are an extremely secretive community and use sex as part of their rituals to achieve supernatural powers. The use of sex is part of the belief that orgasm and sex in the company of the dead will give rise to super powers. It really is a form of channelizing of sexual energy and forms a part of tantra sex. This was propagated by Acharya Rajneesh and many westerns are influenced by it.

The Aghori clans perform tantric sex in a graveyard of the Hindus where the ashes of the cremated are strewn. The ritual involves smearing a naked woman with the ashes in the graveyard and consummation of the act to the beat of drums and recitations of mantras. These mantras are the one that helps release the sexual energy and leads to powers like ESP.

In the sex act, the man and woman take the form of Shiva nd his consort Shakti. In many cases the ritual involves sex with menstruating women and subsequent release of sexual energy. This clan has its headquarters at Varanasi in Utter Pradesh. Many foreigners flock to this ashram in the hope of achieving ESP and other powers. Though this part of the act of developing super powers through sex is not substantiated, the fact remains that many men of this Aghori clan do have subtle powers that cannot be explained.

On aspect of this ritual is that there has to be no force involved and the women have to take an equal part in the ritual which is usually done in the dead of night. The ritual is fairly elaborate and lasts for over an hour from the time of undressing of the woman in the center of the graveyard to the final act and orgasm. It is the duty of the man to delay orgasm till the ritual is completed. Many tantric philosophies have refined this process for common and everyday use.

If you’re ever lucky enough to be banging an older woman, you’ll know that it really is a fantastic way to enjoy sex with a mature, confident and willing sex partner. There’s very little a horny, seductive, highly sexed older woman won’t do. She’ll use her erotic and seductive wiles to tempt you into some titillating sex play… even some that may be taboo!

The Best Sex Education

You’ll have the time of your life and also benefit from getting a deep and dirty ‘hands on’ education in sexual and intimate relationships. There is simply nothing that compares to a practical, physical experience. Remember; an ounce of action (or experience) is worth a tonne of theory.

You’ll learn more in an afternoon of banging an older woman than you ever will by studying any Sex Education manual. In life, nothing is better than ‘just doing it’; nothing is as good as actually learning on the job.

Older Women Love Perverted Fantasies

Mature women who are with a younger man for sex will usually have very few inhibitions or hang ups about sex and carnal desires. Older women are bursting with kinky fantasies and perverted thoughts about sex and intimate physical contact between people. Better still, a mature woman lover will be more than willing to act out these fantasies for real. Be prepared to participate in some pretty kinky and risqué sexual action.

Be a willing partner for her unusual sexual desires. Don’t refuse to participate in making her fantasies a reality… unless it is dangerous to you or other people. If it’s harmless, with consent, doesn’t involve actual violence and doesn’t jeopardise anyone else… go for it! Enjoy and learn!

Say ‘Yes’ More Than You Say ‘No’

Morals? Hmmmm… you have a choice. Yep, you could be on your own, in your own room, watching porn and masturbating furiously… or you can actually get in between the welcoming legs of a real, horny and willing older woman and enter her warmth. Life is all about choices. Friends, wouldn’t you prefer a hot and sexy mature woman’s soft fingers around your todger rather than your own cold and calloused hand? (Todger: British word = penis)

An older woman sex partner will be much more experienced than you and so will have certain things she likes and enjoys. She will be confident in her mental make up for sexual gratification. She’ll be much more open to engaging in provocative, peculiar and even bizarre sex fantasies. Where I’ve been and where you’re going, you’re gonna need a strong stomach and a wild and freaky mind! Friends, we’re *not* talking about a fancy-dress fire fighters uniform or dressing up as a nurse or mild spanking!

Older Women Have Such Dirty Minds

More likely you will find yourself in sweaty, messy threesomes or group sex sessions with couples and single studs. Many older women have desires of being penetrated by a group of young black guys. Though it sounds politically incorrect these days, it is a fact that a lot of women fantasise about being a submissive sex slave and love to act out a subservient role where she is a passive sex toy to be played with or ‘used’ by others, usually lots of men. (Disclaimer: I asked 6 older women and they all said so.)

This sex obedience fantasy role-play may also involve her being urinated on (golden showers / water sports), tied up on a bed and penetrated against her will (role play, of course), or having three men penetrate her at the same time in her vagina, her anus and her mouth. More common is to be roasted by two guys, while she is on all fours on a bed with one guy entering her from behind while the other penetrates her mouth from the front.

In a world of political correctness gone mad, and populated by a generation of sensitive snowflakes, I’m actually wary and cautious of writing more openly of what I know!

Mature Women Are SOOO Nasty!

Many of the older women you’ll come across will be moms who have had one or more children. Some women discover that childbirth has loosened her vagina in such a way that she now wants larger objects to insert. Welcome to the world of fisting! Don’t be taken by surprise if the older babe you’re with, one day, asks you to put your whole fist inside her vagina. What will probably not surprise you is how easily most women can accommodate a man’s fist inside her vagina. Just follow her instructions, use ample lubrication and ensure you don’t hurt her.

Jump In, It’s Great!

Sex with an older woman will be a thrilling part of your life with new and exciting variations of sex and erotic encounters. Very rarely will it be a simple missionary position sex session, although, from time to time, that will be exactly what both partners want.

Be a willing participant; take an active part in life! Be open-minded and do as you’re told; it’s rude to refuse a woman. Don’t hesitate, don’t be indecisive. Be bold, be adventurous… and have fun.

It cannot be denied that sex plays a great role in keeping relationships intact. Lots of people however still believe in the sanctity of this act and would rather wait until marriage or until the relationship gets serious before agreeing to have sex. Is your guy one of those people?

When he waits, it means he has time to spare.

And when he has time to spare, it only means that he’s willing to share himself with you for a longer period. So you say you can’t have sex with him and he still agrees to see you, then it only proves that you have a great, decent man by your side.

He waits because he respects you.

Your man probably thinks that sex is essential in keeping your relationship together so he wants to have you when you’re really ready to be with him. He wouldn’t want to force himself on you because he cares about how you feel.

He may be willing to wait because he wants to do the deed when you’re deeply into the relationship.

Some men hate commitment, which is probably why he is not opening up to you emotionally through sex. Once he feels that he is ready to commit and that he’s already willing to give himself to you wholly, then he would finally initiate the move.

He wants to wait because he wants to make sure you’re the one.

Some men aren’t such pigs (excuse the word). They’re not the type who would sleep with any woman who bats an eyelash at them. They’re the decent ones who would rather wait for the right one rather than spend their bachelorhood in the arms of many different women.

A man who agrees to wait before having sex with you is a matured man.

And, yes, he’s dead serious in studying whether you’re finally the one for him. He thinks before he acts – as he believes that having sex with you would mean sharing a part of him. To him, sex is more than just venting off his lust, its love in its purest form.

He waits because he’s weighing out a lot of things in his mind.

Most men would readily jump into bed with any woman who shows an ample amount of attraction towards them. But when it comes to a woman that might become their future lifetime partner – they just have to halt. There are other things to consider after all – his freedom, career, family, and friends.

Will a Guy Wait to Have Sex with You If He’s Not Ready to Get Serious? The answer is a resounding NO.

A man who can’t wait to jump into your pants, one who wouldn’t even have the capacity to hold himself back, is a man who just wants your body. But a guy who ascertains that he will still be there ’til you’re ready is a guy that’s dead serious about you – keep that in mind!

“What more could have been said?” I wondered, left with a feeling of content, after reading Joyce Garity’s essay “Is Sex All That Matters?” Able to identify with her on most of her viewpoints of the world in which we live in today, I felt some of the weight being lifted from off my shoulders; relieved that I’m not the only human in this world looking upon magazine and TV ads, with half-naked models posing as sex exploits, as a brainwashing on people’s minds.

We are influenced by our society, culture and most of all what we perceive. There isn’t a magazine, television commercial or billboard advertisement in Times Square that’s not giving or sending out a sexual message to people. These ads are intended for viewers to believe in their fantasies and promises that if you don’t buy and wear a certain pair of jeans, you won’t look sexy or, if you don’t buy and wear a certain cologne or perfume, no man will ever want you, or even if you don’t look thin and petite you won’t have a social life because being skinny is considered beautiful. In most American commercials, literally, a man and woman run around chasing each other on a beach half-naked; lovingly they embrace each other and kiss, implying “Forget about reality, let’s make love. Forget about the fact that you might have a disease, and I have a big chance of getting pregnant. Forget about it.” The more people watch these commercials, the more they believe these intended messages to be true. Forget about everything, only love and passion matters! Wrong! Today, the statistics on people diagnosed with having a sexually transmitted disease is high, and the statistics on young teens becoming impregnated is high. And, because of these teens having babies that they’re unable to take care of, there are millions of children in foster care right now without any real place to call home.

In her essay, Joyce Garity, a social worker, hits every subject pertaining to “sex in media” and pinpoints what negative messages the world is sending out to our youth today. She refers to one girl in particular. Elaine had come to live with her for a while. Troubled and nearly lonesome in the world, she was pregnant again with her second child while her first child had already been placed in a foster home. When asked by Garity why she allowed herself to become pregnant again, she said she thought birth control and condoms to be unromantic and embarrassing; one couldn’t really be passionate with sex and worry about using contraceptives at the same time. In other words, Elaine was just another brainwashed individual, lost in a fantasy where negativity doesn’t exist. Forget about reality!

How can we deprogram the damage that has been done by the media? We can start by self-educating ourselves through self-help books. Through self-educating ourselves, we obtain knowledge and through knowledge come a transformation of our way of thinking, acting and feeling. Let’s start making our own conclusions as to how we should live based on righteous morals and norms.

© copyright 2008 Viola Morgan. All rights reserved.

Sex is important! Through the act we perpetuate the species, our own genetic material, and of course, we have fun. Sex is one of the fundamental drives of the human mind; ask any advertiser or film maker whether or not sex sells. Sex is what I like to call a Sensual Energy eXchange. There are different uses for this energy just as there are different inclinations and preferences regarding this energy. Using the Destiny Number, also called the Life Path, we can learn how to best channel this energy to fulfill our sexual needs. The Destiny Number is your birth date reduced to a single digit. For example, if you were on January 1, 1980 you would proceed: 1+1+1+9+8+0 = 20 and 2 + 0 = 2.

NOTE: Sexual expression is often considered taboo and even those who are ’emancipated’ may have a number of repressions. In order to better illustrate the point we will focus upon the extremes. Do not be surprised if you find yourself experiencing a reaction of one form or another and keep an open mind, use these suggestions to embody your vibration sexually.

1 Destiny: You can be single minded in your pursuit of your lover. Taken to the extreme you can look at love as a contest and your partners as conquests. At times you focus too much upon your own satisfaction and be a little too dominant although, your partners find you exciting and willing to experiment. Sexual activities: You can channel your 1 energy be being on top. Make sure you experience the other end of the 1 spectrum by allowing your partner to ride. Ladies, try red lingerie for an exciting night.

2 Destiny: You are a caring lover who aims to please in any way that you can. You enjoy kissing, hugging, and cuddling. In fact, such things are necessary as you need to feel protected and nurtured. At the extreme end you may try to plan things out in advance and schedule love making. You can be a bit submissive and follow your partner’s energy very well. Sexual activities: Show your partner your willingness to please by displaying your body through dance and self-pleasure for their eyes only. On the other side, playfully refuse your lovers advances from time to time and learn to enjoy the power that comes with teasing. Ladies should consider shades of orange in lingerie and makeup.

3 Destiny: You are an exciting and playful lover with a lot of confidence. This gives you the ability to make your partner feel comfortable with your playful, light hearted attitude towards sex. You like different positions and are likely to have a copy of Kama Sutra on your shelf. You can be so uninhibited that you may make your lover blush! Sexual activities: Activities that allow for the sensual exploration of other parts of the body are ideal such as breast sex and foot or toe sex. Ladies can spice things up with shades of yellow.

4 Destiny: Fours can struggle with emotions, especially understanding the passions of their partner. You are slow and steady and may delay lovemaking to build up the steam. Relationships are very important and you are extremely loyal and faithful. Your sex life can become stagnant if you take an intellectual approach and rely only upon the tried and true methods of becoming turned on. Sexual activities: Turn off the lights and crawl under the covers with your lover. Slow, gentle, and long. On the flip side of the coin, go wild every once in a while. Try making love outdoors. Ladies, green is the color to pull out your sensual side to the max.

5 Destiny: The adventurous one! You enjoy variety and excitement. Spontaneity is a turn on as are new places, new positions and new people! You are attractive to the opposite sex and need mental as well as physical stimulation. You like the ups and downs of passion and stimulation. Sexual activities: You may want to eat from a larger menu that includes oral and anal fun, role playing, and other ‘non-standard’ activities like spanking. Ladies should wear blue underclothes and makeup.

6 Destiny: Sixes are quite devoted and need to maintain the balance and harmony in a relationship. When you find that special someone giving in to carnal desires is a joy. Music, candles, and lighting all help to create that air of romance. Long, very long sessions of foreplay including lots of kissing is to your liking. Sexual activities: Being kissed and licked all over your body as well as massages and digital exploration will suit you just fine. Ladies should wear indigo, dark blue, and black.

7 Destiny: Dreamy and romantic, you secretly desire a spiritual connection with your lover. You can be a little spacey and detached and your analytical nature can produce an almost clinical approach to sex. However, you can potentially reach levels of intimacy with your lover that are beyond conscious comprehension. Sexual activities: Explore such things as Tantra and techniques allowing for a more meditative sexual experience. Shed that ‘clinical’ disposition and use some dirty words! Ladies, violets and purples will bring out your inner beast.

8 Destiny: Ok, you’re a freak. Or frigid. Up or down you’re either almost totally active or passive. You can be a little too wrapped up in the politics of sexual power and wouldn’t mind having total control of your partner. Seduce or be seduced. This attitude can alienate others however, when you make a commitment you do so completely. Sexual activities: Games that allow you to safely explore power relationships such as Bondage and Discipline or Role Playing. Learn to enjoy gushy, overly romantic displays. Ladies, the color pink will help you balance out your sexual urges.

9 Destiny: You can be so empathetic that you become a doormat. But, you enjoy helping your lover and often put your own needs on the backburner. But when they finally build up, watch out! Your passion can be volcanic and you lover can unexpectedly find that your quiet nature has become quite demanding. And exciting. Sexual activities: Anything that allows for mutual selfless pleasure such as sixty-nine or mutual masturbation. Ladies should try brown, bronze and chocolate colors in makeup and lingerie.

Copyright Jakob Steele 2007

Premarital sex is universally known as two people having sex before marriage. In the past, premarital sex is considered as forbidden and doing so will lead to a heavy retribution. Now as society evolves, values ​​and mind-sets develop and our degenerating society is slowly embracing premarital sex as a common thing in relationships. This had led to ambivalent responses from the society as well as religions. The significant question is has our society embraced premarital sex? Does the youth of our society know the effects of premarital sex?

Waiting until you're married to engage in sexual activity isn't just some antiquated ideal. It can be advantageous to both partners and the relationship itself. Likewise, engaging in sexual activity before being married can also affect a relationship in myriad ways. Premarital sex can affect how a couple relates to each other, change the dynamics of the relationship and even have physical effects, a child could be brought into the equation and of course most importantly, the salvation of the souls involved.

'Food is for the stomach and the stomach for food, and God will put an end to them together. But the body is not for the desires of the flesh, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body: And God who made the Lord Jesus come back from the dead will do the same for us by his power. Do you not see that your bodies are part of the body of Christ? How then may I take what is a part of the body of Christ and make it a part of the body of a loose woman? Such a thing may not be. Or do you not see that he who is joined to a loose woman is one body with her? For God has said, the two of them will become one flesh. But he who is united to the Lord is one spirit. Keep away from the desires of the flesh. Every sin which a man does is outside of the body; but he who goes after the desires of the flesh does evil to his body. Or are you not conscious that your body is a house for the Holy Spirit which is in you, and which has been given to you by God? And you are not the owners of yourselves; for a payment has been made for you: let God be honored in your body. '

1 Corinthians 6: 13-20

'But fornication and every kind of impurity, or covetousness, let them not even be mentioned among you, for they ought not to be named among God's people.'

Ephesians 5: 3

EFFECTS

1. If you plant premarital sex, you reap extra marital sex as the harvest. Surveys have revealed that people who have indulged in premarital sex are more promiscuous or more susceptible to extra marital sex and affairs while married. Gen.8: 22.

2. It opens the door for demonic spirits to wreak havoc in the relationship. Remember, sex is as spiritual as it is physical. 1 Corinthians 6:16.

3. It will turn off God's supply of favor from reaching you. As Christians we know that God frown at it. The Bible in 1 Corinthians 6:18 says; 'Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body, but he that commits fornication sins against his own body. What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God and ye are not your own? '

4. Your conscience will be wounded and you will be tormented by the thought of such acts of disobedience. Sexually transmitted diseases are often passed when couples have had multiple sexual partners. Although premarital sex doesn't necessarily mean the couple have had multiple sexual partners, the chances are greater than if a couple vows to abstain until marriage

5. It blinds you from seeing the flaws and negative attitudes of your partner. You may be constrained to manage the relationship that may lead to a bad marriage because of the temporary pleasure of sex.

6. You lose the respect of your partner and your focus gets blurred. Sex creates a bond between sex partners that can easily be violated if the commitment isn't strong enough to sustain it. Marriage creates a lifelong commitment and can support the bond a sexual relationship creates. It is very difficult for couples engaged in premarital sex to ensure that their sexual relationship create a lasting bond

7. It erodes the trust you have for each other. As a result suspicion comes up, and there is room for severe jealousy even when nothing is happening.

8. Premarital sex replaces intimacy. This might end up in heartbreak if you lost interest. A married couple could also be more likely to experience problems if one or both partners had been sexually active before marriage. Couples with multiple past sexual partners may find themselves comparing their marital sex life to their premarital sex life, often leading to dissatisfaction.

9. Couples who cohabit or engage in premarital sex before marriage are at greater risk of divorce and report a lower level of dedication to the relationship, which increases the risk of a single-parent household if a child is involved. You open yourself up to shame and regrets if it leads to pregnancy. If you try to cover up by committing abortion, you become guilty of murder that is if you survive it.

10. It will also lead to bad reputation. Usually if adolescents commit premarital sex, this secret would be confined between the couple themselves. Many times this act is hard to be kept as a secret as the man tend to brag amongst their friends thus leading to rumors. The girl's reputation is at stake as she will be gossiped and judged by her own peers.

Based on the information imparted above it can be deduced that Premarital sex adds nothing to your courtship. It only introduces disaffection. If you have already engaged in premarital sex, you should make a commitment with God, your boyfriend or girlfriend, and yourself to remain sexually pure from this point on until marriage.

Ask God for help and strength to remain sexually pure until marriage. God will provide the strength and grace to overcome the temptation to have sex, as long as you are willing and careful not to put yourself in a place of temptation. Philippians 4:13

I Corinthians 10:13 declares, "No temptation has you in its power but such as is common to human nature; and God is faithful and will not allow you to be tempted beyond your strength. But, when the temptation comes, He will also provide the way of escape; so that you may be able to bear it. " It is possible to fight sexual temptation and win the battle.

Also, it is important to remember that God can and does forgive the sin of premarital sex. When a person places his or her faith in the Lord Jesus Christ for salvation, desiring to turn away from the old life of sin, all sins are forgiven. Jesus died to pay the penalty for all of our sins, including premarital sex. Once they are forgiven, they are all forgiven.

Colossians 1: 13-14 says, "Who halt delivered us from the power of darkness, and halt translated us into the kingdom of his dear son. In whom we have redemption through his blood, even the forgiveness of sin:" What we are to do is confess our sins. 1 John 1: 9 says, "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

Pray this prayer

"Lord Jesus, I am a sinner, save me from sins, I promised not to commit the sin of premarital sex any more. Give me the grace Lord to live for you and you only I pray oh Lord in Jesus name.

Congratulations God sees your commitment and will give you the grace to live above every temptation. In Jesus mighty name.

Everyone has days when they feel sluggish, like it is even hard to roll out of bed and put one foot in front of the other. On those days, an extra cup of coffee may be the trick to get up and running for the day. What happens, though, when the body and mind are ready and willing, save for one little part? A tired penis and lack-luster sex drive is something no man wants to deal with – and certainly not on a regular basis. Luckily, there are ways to pep up the penis so it is standing by and ready when it is needed most. Something as simple as adding vitamin B5 to the daily penis care routine can be the boost a man needs to keeping the penis healthy and highly functioning, and that is enough to put a little pep in anyone’s step!

Why B5?

B5 is a vitamin that works in the body to turn incoming food into outgoing energy. It is essential to the body’s functioning, yet most people are unfamiliar with all of its healthful properties. Vitamin B5 serves to help the body form new, healthy red blood cells while boosting immune function. In addition to creating that much-needed energy and vitality the body needs, it also metabolizes protein, synthesizes fats and cholesterol, and works to regulate blood sugars in the body. B5 is a hard-working vitamin; because it is water-soluble – which basically means it is not stored in the body, but rather, unused B5 is excreted in one’s urine – it needs to be taken every day to reap the full benefits.

Another happy benefit of vitamin B5 is the stress-busting and mood-boosting properties it brings with it. In fact, reaching for some B5 during the mid-day slump may provide the energy rush and feel good mood enhancement that many people rely on caffeine for – without the jittery crash that comes with it. Vitamin B5 also carries with it some heart-healthy properties, as it may help to raise HDL – known as good cholesterol-while lowering levels of LDL, the dreaded bad cholesterol.

Of course, vitamin B5 also brings with it an important penis perk in that some studies have shown the vitamin to naturally boost a man’s testosterone level. Testosterone – the male hormone that is the driving force behind a man’s sex drive – naturally depletes as a factor of aging, which contributes to a less than stellar performance behind closed doors. Thus, any vitamin that helps keeps a man’s testosterone level high is a must have on the daily intake meter.

How to take Vitamin B5

Vitamin B5 is found in many food sources that most men are probably eating on a regular basis anyhow, so it is not terribly hard to up the intake in one’s diet. Beef, pork, liver, mushrooms, salmon, tuna, sunflower seeds, pistachios, eggs and legumes are all excellent sources of B5. Not a fan of nuts, or prefer to maintain a meat-free diet? That is okay too; vitamin supplements are available to help boost up one’s intake of essential vitamins and nutrients, helping to achieve the daily recommended doses of everything the body needs to look and feel good.

As an added bonus, men who are looking to really benefit from the penis enhancing benefits of B5 can even reap the benefits via a topical penis vitamin creme (most professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil). A vitamin creme that is specially formulated for use on the penis delivers a powerful punch of B5, right where it is most beneficial: the penis. The benefits of getting B5 in this manner are that it is quickly absorbed through the skin where it helps increase the health of the penis cells for improved penile functioning.

Sexuality includes our sex, our personality and our gender. The reason we have two sexes is for diversity. Some people like being different. They like the attention they get and they may take steps to differentiate themselves from others by dressing or behaving differently. Others have no choice in being different from others and they may resent being treated differently.

We need to be sensitive to remarking on people who are different. We should consider how we would feel if we were excluded for being different. Children should be encouraged to include others who do not fit naturally in a social group. Equally they should learn to respect individual privacy and the choice each of us has to opt out of group activities.

Sex determines a person’s biological status as male or female. Sex is defined by biological facts: chromosomes, balance of hormones, internal and external anatomy. No one can change their sex. They cannot acquire a reproductive function different to the one they were born with. Men produce sperm from their testes. Women produce eggs from their ovaries.

For most of us, there is a sexual differentiation process which ensures that we are born either male or female. Very rare exceptions are those who are born intersex. Intersex babies display physical characteristics of both sexes at birth. The current clinical recommendation for intersex infants is to raise them as girls, with surgery to feminise the appearance of the phallus.

Gender is a person’s internal sense of being male or female. Gender identity is concerned with a sense of belonging. From an early age we want to be identified according to our gender. We align our personal preferences with specific characteristics. Most girls align themselves with a personal presentation that enhances their attractiveness and an accommodating demeanour (smiling and docile). Boys align themselves with a practical personal presentation and an assertive demeanour (competent and serious).

Gender is a concept that is influenced by culture, class and race. Gender refers to the behaviour and attributes that are considered male or female in one social group but may be viewed otherwise in another. Most people identify with the sex they were born even if they do not always behave in ways that are stereotypical for their sex. Other people have a strong emotional objection to being identified as their biological sex.

A woman cannot become a man because a woman lacks a phallus capable of penetration. But a person born male can have surgery and hormone treatment to transition to a female. Transsexuals are biological males who identify with feminine personality traits. They cannot change their genes nor can they acquire the reproductive capabilities of the opposite sex.

Transgender is a term for people whose identity, expression, behaviour or general sense of self does not conform to what is usually associated with the sex they were born in the place they were born. It is often said sex is a matter of the body, while gender occurs in the mind. A transgender man does not think of changing his sex but likes to dress like a woman.

Some heterosexual men like to dress in women’s clothes, which is called cross-dressing. Men can be aroused by the feel of clothing or by dressing as woman. When a man has a clothing fetish it is called transvestitism. Men’s sexual behaviours are typically driven by their own arousal. Whereas women engage in behaviours aimed at providing turn-ons for men. Women wear masculine style clothing for social or political reasons.

Some transvestites are homosexual and others are heterosexual. Homosexuals who dress in women’s clothes may be called drag-queens. Some men like to dress as women to communicate their submissiveness (amenability to being penetrated by a lover) and a willingness to please a lover (by putting their lover’s arousal and orgasm before their own).

These minority groups have a political motivation to be recognised by society that far outweighs their representation in the population. Men pose a potential threat to others because of their desire for penetrative sex. This is the main reason it is important to know a person’s sex. Women may bully and abuse other people, especially those weaker than they are. But women are not capable of penetration. So women do not have the same motivation (that men have) to obtain sexual gratification from others.

We are all different in the sense that we each have a unique set of genes we inherit from our parents. But saying that every woman is different when it comes to sexual response is due to ignorance over female sexuality. Most of women’s sexuality is defined by behaviours, which are consciously employed and so cause the variations we see between individuals.

For the most part, our minds and bodies function in similar ways regardless of sex or orientation. Orgasm is an instinctive response of the human mind and body that we cannot control consciously. As long a person is responsive (most men after adolescence and a very few women), orgasm arises as a subconscious response when the correct stimuli are present.

No one who knows how remarkably different individuals may be… would conceive of erotic capacities (of all things) that were basically uniform throughout a population. (Alfred Kinsey 1948)

What is the difference between good sex and bad sex? A bit of a tricky question because in reality, only you can know that. Each individual will have a different perception of what good sex is to the next person. It’s like food in a way, you might like bacon with sauce and others don’t, therefore, give sauce to the hater and they will see this as a bad thing rather than good.

The best way to explain this is to go off what is supposedly big turn offs in the bedroom, knowing what you must and must not do at the beginning, during and after sexual intercourse will help avoid upsetting your sexual partner. Displease this person and thumbs down it is and very likely a Facebook rant about their bad sex experience. Not everyone’s partner might embarrass this way online, but their friend might. Everyone has a friend they confide in so get it right.

Bear in mind, what someone might love done to them between the sheets the next person may not and freak out. Get to know your partner’s likes and dislikes beforehand. The quick fumble in a back alley may not be a time that gives you time to ask questions, nevertheless before making a move ask are they up for it. If you get a positive response go ahead, but an indication of apprehension, forget it.

Also, a time to act sensibly. Wear a condom to avoid an unwanted pregnancy or a sexually transmitted infection.

Sex mistakes women make:

1. When the man turns over on his side after sex he is not ignoring you. He’s done his lovemaking and now tired. The vast majority of men don’t connect when sexual intercourse is over and women shouldn’t see this as a bad thing, but most do, unfortunately. Leave him alone and let him sleep. Act smart as tired men don’t perform well especially if those unfinished jobs around the house still need doing.

2. If you’re not happy with the shape of your naked body don’t be moaning to him about it. You may bet he isn’t unhappy about. Covering yourself up is not what he wants’, he needs to see the goods. Fewer layers are every man’s dream so let him crack on.

3. As much as men love sex and stats have proved they think about sex every four seconds, they don’t like to be pestered for it. Bullying can kill his desire to have sexual intercourse.Sex mistakes men make:

4. Most guys’ foreplay includes giving big wet sloppy kisses and a quick grope. Okay, this is fine, but foreplay is about many tender actions. You have the whole naked body of your partner to explore, so aside from hands use your tongue as well. Don’t put a restriction on that tongue let it roam freely. Start from the ear to the neck, working down to the breasts. Your partner’s response allows you to know if she is enjoying this. Foreplay is a necessity for women.

5. As eager as you may be to get down to business, find out what turns your girl on. Good sex is about pleasing. Some men after satisfying themselves believe the job is done. Don’t be selfish and think of your partner.

6. Another typical sex mistake men make is acting like they are a sex symbol or a god. Don’t spoil the moment. Be yourself.

7. If you tend on using sex gadgets and sex toys, ask if this is okay. Kinky isn’t for everyone.

8. Bad hygiene is the biggest turn-off.

9. Communication a key factor. Talk things through with your partner. Get him or her to open up about their feelings on sex. You may be pleasantly surprised to hear what they have to say. If their opinion on certain sexual acts is good, that’s great, if it is not it isn’t the end of the world. At least now you have an indication of what is wrong and how your partner feels and therefore you can put right. Now you have no reason not to provide your partner with good sex.

“I used to have great sex with my wife 3 times per week. Now, I consider myself lucky if we can even do it once every fortnight. In fact, she prefers masturbation over having sex with me.” Are you facing a similar problem such as the one described above? Well, you are not alone. Many married men are equally frustrated. You may have great sex with your wife in the past but the honeymoon period does not last. Life gets in the way and your wife may find sex a chore rather than something she enjoys.

Does Your Wife Prefer Her Sex Toys Over You?

Do you know why your wife is no longer interested in sex? This is something you have to find out if you want to solve the problem. I notice that in some relationships, the women rather masturbate using sex toys than to have sex with their husbands. This can be a very serious problem. The fact that a woman masturbates shows that she does have sexual needs and desire. However, if she chose to fulfil her sexual needs with sex toys rather than her husband, something is wrong. It is a well known fact that the lack of sex can lead to a breakdown in marriage. Although the lack of sex may not be the number one reason for divorce, it is important to fix the problem before it goes out of control.

Your Wife Is Not Enjoying Herself In Bed

There are many valid reasons why a woman does not want to have sex with her husband. Being too tired is definitely a valid reason. Perhaps she is the one doing all the household chores and taking care of the kids. If that is the case, helping your wife with the household chores and taking care of the kids will help you to score some points. Who knows? It may lead to a great night again. But what if you have done all of those things and your wife is still not keen to do it with you?

More often than not, it is because she doesn’t enjoy her sexual experience with you. In this type of situation, most women will tend to give their husbands a politically correct answer. It doesn’t matter what the answer is. They are doing so because they don’t want to hurt their husband’s feelings.

But you already know the truth. The truth is that she does not enjoy her sexual experience with you.

3 Methods To Revive Your Sex Life

1. Communicate With Her

Sometimes, all you need to do is to communicate with your wife. You must let your wife know that you will not be offended even if she tells you the truth. Sure, you may not like what you hear and may find your ego bruised. But why let your ego rule over you?

As a real man, you should do something more constructive. If you realize that she doesn’t enjoy sex with you, you should find out why and see if there are any areas you can work on. Don’t let ego gets in the way.

2. Try Something New

Maybe your wife is just bored. When you have the chance to have sex with your wife again, try something new. For example, if you are always the one on the top, you can suggest a change in position. Ask your wife to go on top of you instead. Who knows? Your wife may love it.

3. Make Her Fall In Love With You Again!

I am sure you have heard of this phrase, “women have sex because of love”. As far as a woman is concerned, sex is a very emotional thing. If your wife doesn’t enjoy sex with you, it is probably because she has fallen out of love.

So what you need to do is to make your wife fall in love with you again. Perhaps you have not dated your wife for a long time? Why not start wooing your wife again?