Unfortunately, many women want to know how to deal with ambivalent men. Being in love with a man who is afraid or unable to commit is both confusing and frustrating. It can leave a woman questioning her appeal and wondering whether her man truly does love her. If you’re in a relationship like this right now, there is hope for you. There are simple steps any woman can take that will make her man get over his ambivalence and want to take the relationship to the next level.

Learning how to deal with ambivalent men starts with understanding that pushing a man like this to make a commitment will simply never work. If a man has serious reservations about taking the next step in a relationship, pushing him towards it, will usually backfire. Instead of realizing that he wants the commitment, he’ll push back and almost always the relationship will suffer. In fact, many men who are afraid of commitment will end the relationship if they feel they are being pressured. The very best thing you can do is stop talking about things becoming more serious. Don’t mention commitment again. He’ll realize you’ve stopped talking about it and that will not only make him feel more at ease, it will make him wonder why you suddenly aren’t interested in marrying him anymore.

You’ve also got to create some distance if you are dealing with a man who won’t commit. If a man is ambivalent about a serious relationship, yet he considers himself your exclusive boyfriend that may be a problem. As soon as he realizes that you’re devoted only to him, he’s not going to feel as though he needs to work harder to win your heart. If a man is even the least bit apprehensive about committing and his girlfriend is constantly reassuring him that she loves him, he’ll see no reason to try and win her heart. Pull back a bit and watch him sit up and take notice. The moment he senses you may be slipping away, he’ll suddenly reconsider his attitude about commitment.